Man and woman in love
'For all those years I've been teaching this love between man and woman, and in doing so, I've had to take you, the people who come to me, through these dreadful emotions which also have never been addressed until my teaching came along...'
'The world didn't know the difference between love and sex, that love was not an emotion, that love has nothing in it for yourself, that love is a giving and a being, and that sex is always looking for something for itself and looking for excitement as an emotion.'
'It all begins with the love of man and woman, because this body came out of the love of man and woman, and everybody comes out of the love and man and woman. All life begins with the love of man and woman. So it's logistically evident that that must be where we have to start, and it's logistically evident that that's where all the mistakes are made and why everybody's unhappy.'
'When you have lack of love, and I'm talking about the love of man for woman, in the first instance... that's a very, very depressing state... They have touches of it, and it doesn't last, it disappears or something. And that's a very, very traumatic thing. And women get depressed, and man because he is not loving... I teach a love that doesn't end.'
SESSIONS
The cosmos in the body
Length: 1 hours and 16 minutes
Presence is the test of consciousness: be totally here, withdraw from the senses, and enter the universe within; dissolve the worldly emotion dividing earth (feeling) and heavens (intellect) so the whole of life becomes the meditation.
Solar plexus, the sun in your body
Length: 1 hours and 14 minutes
Barry teaches a practical descent of attention from the head to the solar plexus, the body’s living sun, where love and passion arise without emotion.
The absolute intelligence of love | Talks from Tamborine Mountain 1987 - February
Length: 28 minutes
Love is space and presence—without opposite and without pain. Suffering in “love” arises from attachment, which holds to objects, memories, and expectations. Separate love from attachment and you will stand in the fine reality that lets all things pass through.
Tired of living, or only tired of trying?
Length: 29 minutes
Living is meeting what comes now; “trying” is the restless attempt to meet life in advance. When upset, one is tired of trying, not living. Release attachment, face the facts here, and the strain dissolves.
Feelings appear in the inner mirror
Length: 29 minutes
Feeling—now—is the only reliable mirror. Either you are enshrouded in the deathly heaviness of problems or enrobed in the lightness of life. Thinking cannot tell you; sensation does.
Woman is waiting to be loved
Length: 29 minutes
Woman waits as the earth; man must be man enough to love her. Cats and dogs symbolise impersonal and personal love; God is intimate goodness known now, not believed. Priestly fear and lust-as-thinking confuse children. Die to unhappiness; go through clouds and emotion to the Most High.
Putting the head back on the body
Length: 29 minutes
A farewell from Tamborine Mountain: listen for the new, put the head back on the body, be thee, burn the dead emotions, and love by telling everything so that liftoff to uninterrupted cosmic consciousness is lived here and now.
The field and the ground
Length: 1 hours and 52 minutes
Barry distinguishes the field of perception from the ground of love, showing how understanding arises without memory and how thinking is powered by stored emotion.
Fundamental Teaching Part 3
Length: 1 hours and 29 minutes
The evening opens by locating goodness in the body and choosing the “biggest yes” in any situation. Barry contrasts spirals of life with vicious circles of pain, and shows that acknowledgement creates experience. Love must come first between man and woman; otherwise distractions rule. Work asks for surrender or quitting cleanly—no attitude.
Power and the two principles of Love and Truth
Length: 1 hours and 47 minutes
The talk grounds love in the inner principles of man and woman, distinguishes power from worldly force, and shows how sex, fantasy, and emotion obstruct love.
The master within the man
Length: 2 hours and 48 minutes
Barry Long overturns the mind’s habit of problem-hunting, asking for acknowledgement of the good and action for the situation rather than self consideration.
The master within the man
Length: 2 hours and 48 minutes
Barry Long overturns the mind’s habit of problem-hunting, asking for acknowledgement of the good and action for the situation rather than self consideration.
Woman must be loved, not sexed
Length: 2 hours and 45 minutes
The talk puts God first, exposes sex without love as the only devil, and shows how entering the silent “me” ends the thinker and restores love to its purpose between man and woman.
Woman must be loved, not sexed
Length: 2 hours and 45 minutes
The talk puts God first, exposes sex without love as the only devil, and shows how entering the silent “me” ends the thinker and restores love to its purpose between man and woman.
The biggest yes is not a decision
Length: 1 hours and 56 minutes
The talk re-establishes being in the body so intelligence, not self, runs the life.
Nothing is real except what is here now
Length: 2 hours and 4 minutes
The speaker insists that reality is only what is here now; everything else—news, memory, concepts—is assumption or imagination. Rest in unknowing and the solution appears as the present.
Love and relationships
Length: 1 hours and 56 minutes
Love brings peace, and the self—made of pain—moves to disturb it; the work is to catch the first thought that breaks stillness and to love with purpose, not fantasy.
Open the bamboo cage: freeing the prisoners within
Length: 2 hours and 38 minutes
The talk exposes past resentments as “prisoners” that block a living psychic flow, contrasts mental entertainment with vital being, and teaches a return to me—the vertical place of nothing—through honesty, stillness, and giving up positions.
Open the bamboo cage: freeing the prisoners within
Length: 2 hours and 38 minutes
The talk exposes past resentments as “prisoners” that block a living psychic flow, contrasts mental entertainment with vital being, and teaches a return to me—the vertical place of nothing—through honesty, stillness, and giving up positions.
Beyond the ninety years: widening the lens of life
Length: 2 hours
The talk contrasts mortal living with immortal being and invites a life of pauses, presence, and love without force.
Death without fear: stillness is the rehearsal
Length: 1 hours and 27 minutes
Death is demystified by practising inner stillness; when sensation is known beyond form, the loss of form no longer terrifies.
The divine necessity of the body
Length: 1 hours and 21 minutes
The psyche spins in circles, returning us to the same problems. Freedom begins by refusing interpretation and returning to the physical body—seeing and hearing without adding feelings or thought. The body is made new each moment by Spirit; this immediacy is the beginning.
Romance as reality: being responsive to love
Length: 1 hours
Romance is reality when negativity ends now; acknowledge the good, return to the body, and let Consciousness transform the experiment of life.
Love beyond feeling
Length: 1 hours and 11 minutes
Feelings are unreliable because they are moved by information; knowledge is steady because it is a state, finer than feelings. The work is to take the film out of the camera and see through the lens only.
No discussions, no positions: just love
Length: 1 hours and 25 minutes
Barry dismantles the habit of “discussing the relationship,” calling it the end of love, and asks partners to give up positions, defences, and debates and simply love one another.
