GOLD COAST TALK 8 MARCH 1998

Character and personality; character is wellbeing; personality is the frontal face of the person; defending your self; effect of alcohol ~ Purpose in relationship ~ If ever you are angry, you are not being honest ~ Character is good that has no opposite; personality is winning/losing ~ Going into Me (6 mins)

Question: I would like to be free of insecurity - what can I do practically to overcome that? The monitor; conscience ~ Question: What if your partner is not interested in the spiritual life? ~ Physical ailments ~ The fact of death ~ Question: How can I put your teaching into practice when I’m still dreaming about my past love? ~ Question: Do the personality and the self take time to die? ~ Detachment from partner when there’s a child; keep things practical; explain the truth of life to the child

Clarification of ego and self; the capital ‘S’ higher self ~ Choosing a lover from your self; you’ve got to be practical; alcoholics and drugtakers ~ Parenting: everything has to be practical ~ Ego and instinct ~ Woman’s intuition ~ What benediction did you receive today? Gratitude ~ The earth and the world; scientists are driven by the world ~ Question: I don’t seem to be going as deep as I want to go into love; familiarity

Making love morning, noon and night. Woman is the mystery and man is the means. Acknowledge what you love and don’t particularise it ~ Question: Does the divine life include being by yourself and not being with woman? Realising God out of existence and God in existence; celibacy; secrets ~ Going out of existence in lovemaking. Lovemaking leads to the truth and truth leads to love ~ Question: Resistance to making love ~ Question: Restlessness in man and stillness in lovemaking ~ Question: How can I go deeper in making love without cutting off out of fear? ~ To be content; longing; thy will be done

GOLD COAST TALK 5 APRIL 1998

Back to basics: how to reach the place of Being; the belly, the source of self, tension in the belly, the past; being beside your self; you have to get a new vision of what it is to be good ~ There is nothing to hold on to in Being; telling the children about past experience lodged in the tummy; it is bodies that make love ~ The secret behind existence is death ~ Going into Me (5 mins) ~ When the washing machine stops

Question from 8 year old: Do people still have their past when they lose their memory? Senility ~ Registering the sensation in the tummy; doing what is right for you ~ Everything happens in the body ~ Question: When I’m going to sleep I seem to accelerate into the void and I’m afraid. Facing the death energy; hello silence my old friend ~ Emotions rising out of the stomach ~ Woman’s consciousness is in her vagina

Letter from woman: men confusing sexual attraction with love ~ A vision I had 35 years ago and its implications for us: It is the Lord! ~ The difference between the Lord and God ~ I live in paradise on earth ~ Going into Me (4 mins) ~ Question: Who is aware of the self in the belly? Mind, psyche, spirit and eternity; man-hood and woman-hood ~ Using the mind to observe the sensation; the mind goes still and the sensation disappears

Effort and effortlessness ~ Question: Confusion between eastern traditions of celibacy and this teaching of tantric love. You don’t need a celibate body, you need a celibate mind ~ What you put into the psyche, you get back ~ Letter from man: How can I surrender my independence? ~ Letter about letting go ~ Question: Do I have the love of God in me? ~ Question: How can I love more and give up everything without being a wimp? ~ Letter about harmony and fighting. You shouldn’t need to try to teach each other ~ One of those incredible things

GOLD COAST TALK 14 JUNE 1998

Living in harmony: emotionalising difficulties turns them into problems ~ Are parents fit to raise children? ~ Taking action, looking and thinking ~ Acceptance ~ The two transcendental principles of love and truth ~ Going into Me (5 mins) ~ Surrender or quit: if I have to surrender anything then I have a problem

Question: I have a difficulty with my 8 year old daughter who continually challenges me ~ Question: I have had severe neck pain for a year: difficulties with father ~ Not holding anything against my partner. Woman has to earn her vagina ~ Suffering ceases when I cease thinking about it ~ Emotional and mental pain goes into the psyche: the solution is to want nothing ~ Question: How can I get rid of ambition and wanting to succeed?

Vibration and resonance between man and woman ~ Man and woman’s virtue: woman mustn’t take on a man with troubles ~ Question: Should I continue with a troublesome relationship or walk away?

Question cont’d: Isn’t there a lot I need to work through and learn about myself? ~ Mature people and those without a partner ~ Question: Is it right that you can only really live love if you are already living in a state of total freedom? ~ Question: What if it’s not possible to be with you regularly? ~ Question: I am having a lot of difficulty coming to terms with a car crash injury ~ Question: Is it better to allow my emotions for a short period rather than trying to drop them immediately? ~ Acknowledgement of transmission of love ~ Experience of chronic injury

GOLD COAST TALK 13 SEPTEMBER 1998

Don’t make a dogma: live the truth ~ You are not living the truth if you weep. Everybody departs or dies ~ Going into Me (6 mins) ~ Consciousness: every moment of your life is registered in consciousness ~ Barry reads part of his epic poetry ~ Existence is about undergoing experience: how can you understand if you haven’t undergone? ~ A master who doesn’t teach

Why I don’t meet with enlightened masters ~ God can’t enter your body while unhappiness is in you ~ Question: I’m confused about feelings and emotions ~ Question: How do I deal with anger? ~ Question: How can I stop persistent thought patterns? ~ Question: What do you mean by awareness?

Written question: Can primal therapy help to access the unconscious? ~ Question: If we don’t recognise our emotions, how can we free ourselves of them? ~ Question: What is the intense, dark passage between sleeping and waking which makes me emotional? ~ Going into Me (5 mins) ~ Man and woman are made in God’s image ~ The first object of my teaching is to realise God within, outside of existence

Woman is the prize of existence and man is the means of the realisation of this prize ~ Question: Are you saying that on my own I can’t find God? ~ Question: What makes me undergo situations again and again? ~ Question: Pregnancy, children, contraception: what do you teach? ~ Question: Lovemaking without orgasm ~ How to stop attachment in love

GOLD COAST TALK 20 DECEMBER 1998

Realisation of the truth ~ Vital body or life body; seeing a dead body; excitement and passion ~ Going into Me (8 mins) ~ Can you give up being moved by emotion? ~ Consciousness, intelligence, sensation ~ Question: If you don’t express emotion is it gone or suppressed? ~ Question: Is not expressing emotion and having the knowledge that I don’t want it, the same as dissolving it?

Question: I am confused after breaking up my partnership ~ Do you want to argue with your lover? ~ Question: What is the basic human need? ~ Question: Where emotion comes from ~ Question: Is there any good sorrow when someone dies? ~ Question: As a single mother it is difficult to get order into family life without yelling. The genius of being a mother ~ Question: When I have a good laugh or cry I feel better ~ Question: How do you find a compatible partner? Is it a commitment?

Going into Me (9 mins) ~ Getting your life right; compromise; accepting life as it is ~ Question: If you’re emotional does that mean you can’t be trusted? How do you overcome attachment? ~ When a woman is not loved enough she gets emotional ~ Question: I’m confused whether the partnership process is rightly bringing up emotion to be faced, or whether I’m with the wrong partner. If I love him why do I get irritated about small things?

Question: By asking a person to change, isn’t that asking them to compromise? ~ Question: Are your mother and father a good microcosm of your relationships? ~ Going into Me (8 mins) ~ Purpose of experience; wanting and desire ~ Question: A man declared his love for me and then withdrew it; what should I do? ~ Giving up to God my ideas of who I am ~ Question: When you gaze around looking at the people, what are you doing?