What is love?
In this episode, Barry Long looks into the essence of love between man and woman, stressing the need for honesty, and intelligent communication. He addresses common relationship challenges, like man's inability to listen and women's emotional reactions, urging partners to communicate intelligently and uncover the cause of any distance between them. Barry also explores in built differences between man and woman and reassures that true intimacy stems from love, not performance. With practical insights, he encourages letting go of demands and using honesty to build deeper, more harmonious relationships.
'For a woman to be a real woman that is not to demand, but at the same time to be straight, that requires power and lack of emotion. For all emotion is force, and demand contains force.'
'Man, because he has, since time began, regarded himself through his superior physical strength to be superior to woman, does not like to listen to woman who might challenge his cherished attitudes.'
'A woman cannot have a man who wants to be independent… That's not a partnership. That's a relationship in which we both agreed to appear to be together, but go our own ways.'
'If you don't put love first, then you will grow apart by living together, you'll have this dark area between you.'
LANGUAGE: English
YEAR RECORDED: 2002
PLACE RECORDED: Gold Coast
DURATION: 55 minutes
EPISODE NOTES
Extracts:
'Now man is with woman, where I come from, for her to help him to give up his structures. Only to help him. As he is with her, to help her to give up her emotion. So it's a two way deal.'
'Man's main difficulty in living with woman is that he won't listen to her.'
'So a real woman is she who is true to the situation. Now it is being true to the situation and not to yourself that's important, not to be true to your own feelings, but to be true to the situation. So what is the situation between man and woman? The situation is that we are together to enjoy ourselves, and I do not enjoy it, I do not enjoy your anger, if you're angry, and so I will point that out to you when you're angry, trusting that you are intelligent enough to either say the source of it or to get rid of it within you. So that's being true to the situation. And if the man doesn't get rid of his anger and insists on his that he is right to be angry or emotional, then the woman has to to be a real woman has to very, very seriously look at whether she can remain in this relationship, because it won't get better. No matter how much she thinks she can change a man, unless he is willing to listen, she cannot change him. She only thinks she can because she thinks her love is so strong that she can change anything. It's not true. There has to be a willingness to change.'
Discovering Truth