What it is to be new
In this talk, Barry Long speaks about what it really means to be present in our relationships—and why that presence is so often missing. At the heart of his message is the idea of "being new": approaching each moment, each interaction, and especially each relationship, without dragging in the past. He challenges the familiar habits of replaying old conversations, clinging to memories, or avoiding the truth for the sake of comfort. Barry points out that real love can only thrive in the now, not in routines or emotional leftovers. Through honest and intelligent conversations in our relationships we can drop the habits, be real, and stay awake to each moment—because that’s where love is found.
LANGUAGE: English
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DURATION: 1 hours and 27 minutes
EPISODE NOTES
Key themes that Barry addresses include: family issues create the fundamental emotional burden that people carry; the difference between the analytical I and the feeling me, a key distinction is drawn between the I — the thinking, past-oriented self — and me — the present, sensational and feeling being who knows love and truth directly.
Barry examines how familial and romantic relationships are degraded by emotional familiarity and unfaced emotional pain, and proposes that only through clarity of communication and sincere honesty can relationships be put straight and kept free of emotion.
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Extracts from the talk:
'As soon as you get familiar with each other, love goes out the window, and sentiment comes in with emotion.'
'The present is the new, and what's the new? It is you. You're the new. So it's a matter of standing being the new.'
'All truth is in me, the only place. All opinions are in I, the thinker, the worrier.'
Metamorphosis