Ready to say goodbye, ready to die
Recording 09 of 12
Setting life in order so nothing is left unsaid
The talk asks whether one is ready to say goodbye—which means ready to die—and shows that maturity is a life and love fully acknowledged, with nothing left unsaid to partner, child, parent, or the earth.
LENGTH: 30 MINUTES
LANGUAGE: ENGLISH
YEAR RECORDED: 1988
PLACE RECORDED: TAMBORINE MOUNTAIN, AUSTRALIA
MAIN TOPICS
Kindness, Teaching children, Freedom and liberation, Love and death, Food, Sensitivity, Realisation, Death, Facing death, Attachment and Detachment
SUMMARY
Readiness is not an attitude but a fact: everything in order, nothing left to say. Barry turns to the partner ('get it right now'), then to the child—teaching death as ordinary, love as felt inside and never buried—and to the parents, where acknowledgment that 'everyone has done their best' ends resentment. Liberation is described as not having to say goodbye because presence has already said it all. A shop-counter story with Simon contrasts indulgent 'kindness' with love that strengthens. The heart's passage 'through the eye of the needle'—the searing of jealousy and possessiveness—scrapes off attachment so that a broad, unconditioned love can live. Finally, he exposes food as our first god, and money as its servant, urging us to pass through these societal attachments to be free.
Outline – The need to say goodbye, Simons maths lesson, 'Kindness' and love, How liberation is realised , Lack of sensitivity, Breaking attachment
08 - The teacher and the master: need versus presence
